What do you know about your spouse after being married for 10 years? We’re about to find out.
I searched the internet for fun and meaningful interview questions we could both answer about love, life and marriage. For fun, we are not going to read each other’s answers until we read this post together. This should be interesting. Enjoy!
Q: Describe your first kiss…Describe your last kiss…
Her Answer: Our first kiss for me was completely unexpected. I was hoping for some magical Little Mermaid kiss, in a boat with Sebastian singing kiss the girl! I guess that can happen now at California Adventure, kind of. I digress. It was first semester at Mesa College. We were hanging out at my parent’s house and I needed to drop off a paper at school. I asked him to come with me and we drove literally down the street, we parked and walked my paper to my teacher’s office. On the way back to the car he grabs my hand, pulls me into a dark hallway, pushes me against the wall, holds me close and starts attacking my face with his tongue! Ha ha. We were rudely interrupted by a professor walking out of the office. I was scared and little embarrassed. We walked back silently to the car, where he then pinned me again and proceeded to kiss me like there was no tomorrow. I was in shock! So much for my romantic kiss, but I wouldn’t change it for the world.
Now the last kiss we had, not so passionate. Because yes, I will give him that…that first kiss was pretty passionate, messy, but passionate. Maybe a sweet peck on the cheek followed by an “I love you” or “good night”….I think?!
His Answer: I couldn’t for the life of me remember the first time we kissed. But I can remember when I first held her hand. My family and I were on our way to mexico to meet my sister for her boyfriend’s birthday dinner. We were riding in my dad’s van and my wife and I were sitting in the very back of the van. The road was rough and bumpy so I decided to make my move to hold her hand, it was my way to ensure her that everything is okay.
What made you fall in love? Or describe the first time you met.
Her Answer: The first time we met was at Church after youth service. It was a Friday night. Everyone was checking him out…in his blue windbreaker pants and white tee! We finally were introduced and at that very moment I knew he had been the one God had carefully been preparing for me. It was the strangest feeling, but I felt it and I denied it for some time. His persistence and unusually gentle hand and heart kept me curious. I gave in after a few months, let him in and here we are 16 years later!
His Answer: The first time I met my wife was at a local church. My uncle invited me to the church because he needed a ride. Lo and behold there she was, chasing her nephew around the church alter. It was like the heavens parted and the rays of the sun beamed down on her and all of the angels in heaven sang in unison. This is the one.
What have you learned from your spouse?
Her Answer: This is a loaded question. I’ve learned so much. I’ve learned to be patient, to be slow to speak and quick to listen (I’m still working on this.) He has taught me that men matter too. They have feelings just like us. This is important because I’m also raising a son. He has reminded me to never give up on myself. I’ve learned that it won’t kill me to relax and indulge once in a while, even if the house is a total disaster. It’s okay to say no. We are never too old to start Jiu Jitsu! Marital arts is a sport! Even when I think he’s not listening, he is. The man will always want to provide for his family and because of that our family is the reason for everything he does anything! I can probably write another blog post about this. Men really are simple creatures!
His Answer: Not to take life too seriously and enjoy the moment. Haven’t quite figured it out yet, I’m still learning every day.
What’s the best thing about being married?
Her Answer: If I’m being honest, the sex! I’m married I don’t have to be ashamed. Sorry, dear! Sex lead to growing our family and I strongly believe intimacy keeps us close. It’s the one thing we share with each other no one else can.
His Answer: For me is seeing the life that we are building together, come together. Through the tough and bad times, the memories that we build together far outweighs it all.
What is your favorite wedding day memory?
Her Answer: Giving him a high 5 after saying I DO! I also loved the first look before the wedding. It was sweet moment. Being surrounded by our loved ones and having them cheer us on also meant a lot to me. And of course, dancing the night away was fun too, even though I wasn’t dancing with him. Ha ha!
His Answer:The boat ride to our hotel, was the highlight of my wedding day. To me the boat ride signified the journey together into the great unknown, both exciting and scary at the same time.
What is your favorite memory since being married?
Her Answer: We went on a cruise to celebrate our first wedding anniversary. It was the one time we were on our own in a different place, no kids, no parents, and no responsibilities. It was an adventure I’ll always cherish. Plus, it was the first, and last, time he took a shot of tequila with me! I wish we had more times like this. Next to that would be bringing in two beautiful beings into this world together.
His Answer: The birth of my two beautiful, rambunctious kids would be my favorite memory since being married.
Do you think having children has affected your marriage? Why?
Her Answer: Having kids and growing our family has been an amazing and crazy experience. It definitely takes a toll on the marriage. It brought on challenges and feelings I wasn’t sure how to handle. It was always my goal to keep Ryan my first priority, but things change when you’re in the thick of raising kids. You get tired, you lose your mind, and you can lose each other if you don’t communicate. Raising our family has made us stronger individually and as a couple.
His Answer: I find myself talking about this a lot lately. Having kids is truly a blessing but at times the Lord has a sense of humor. There are times where my kids would really test my patience and question if it was a good idea taking them with Angela and I when we go out.
If you could do anything different what would you do?
Her Answer: Most things I’d keep the same. I believe everything happens for a reason. For our wedding, I would have slowed down a little and made things a little more intimate, and really stopped to think about what we wanted. And I definitely would have stuck with my initial photographer. I knew he would have done a better job. Plus, I still don’t have my wedding video and don’t know if I ever will. My biggest planning mistake. Finally, I wish we would have waited just a few months before we bought our condo to buy a house! Who knew the real estate market would continue to go down. Oh, and I would have saved more money, a lot more.
His Answer: Probably save money more and not spend too much for our wedding. We talked about this also, buy a house first then have an intimate ceremony in the backyard.
What is something you’ve done that has really made a difference in your marriage, that you would give as advice to be successful to others?
Her Answer: Communicate, communicate, communicate! I can’t stress that enough. It’s something we got really good at right before we got married then at some point we lost it. Take time to tell each other how you are feeling. Learn to accept that you are two different people. The sooner you do that, the easier it will be. Men and women are just wired differently; we have different needs and desires. If we can communicate them to our spouses in a way that makes sense then we are on a good path!
His Answer: My advice to other married men or thinking about putting a ring on it would be to listen to her. Not just passively listen but really listen to her. Being a man usually when we hear things that we think need correction we tend to try and fix it. But that is usually the opposite of what she wants. What she might want is someone to hear her and be there for here not only physically but also emotionally, learn to empathize with her.
What advice would you give to your kids about love and marriage?
Her Answer: Oh man…I forget that one day they will be in our shoes. It is my hope and prayer that they will invest in themselves in every way possible before they find their true love. I believe that God prepares a special person for each and every one of us. I want them to start praying for that person. I pray for that person now. And when they meet them, keep praying for them. I’ll teach them to love unconditionally, to communicate, to not be afraid, to be fair and to always put your spouse first. I will tell them to forgive often and to let God lead them.
His Answer: Not necessarily advice but my actions when I am around. I want to show my kids that I really love my wife, that I enjoy her company, and I am present. I believe that this is important for my son to see how you treat a woman and for my daughter to understand that this how a woman should be treated.
Want more? Check out the 5 songs I dedicated to him for our anniversary.