With Security, Comes Beauty!

Recently Daddy and I went to a nightclub as part of our Date Night. Daddy has NEVER really been the type to go out clubbing. In fact, he said he only started going because of me. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not a regular, I just love to dance and I like big crowds. Daddy, not so much. Anyway, most of the clubs now-a-days have go-go dancers bascially gyrating in their lacy underwear purchased from Victoria’s Secret. I can’t help but look and I’m a woman…that being said, well I know Daddy saw it too!

Anyway, when we were out that night, I felt this total sense of security. Even though I knew I couldn’t stop Daddy from seeing beautiful women, and there were beautiful women there, some whom I knew and I knew had more kids than I did, I was secure. I will admit that I was a little envious of some of these women with their perky breasts and juicy booties, flaunting their MILF status and so on. But, I didn’t react as I thought I might. I had no feeling of anxiety, no sense of urgency to leave. I was fine. I was okay with being surrounded by beautiful half naked women and my husband! Weird? I’m not sure. We did have a conversation that evening about my discovery and I told him that if anything I was totally motivated by these women. I may not go out and walk around in my lingerie, at least not outside the four walls of my house, but I will be confident and proud of the beauty I posses.

I want to be a good role model for Pinky. Being a woman is confusing enough. I don’t want her to become insecure because she doesn’t fit some kind of stereotype. I want her to know that everyone is beautiful in their own right. I am in no place to judge the women at the club, because I can admit, that given the right circumstance, I might be out there shaking my money maker too. Everyone has a story, everyone has a passion…but I don’t want my daughter to ever have to depend on her body or her looks to survive.

Being mother to a daughter is tough…I know as she grows it is only going to be more challenging. I want Pinky to know that being secure in herself is beauty, not the other way around. Being beautiful doesn’t make you secure, not fully at least. Being beautiful is only part of the equation, feeling and knowing your are beautiful inside and out, leads to security. There are thousands of beautiful women who are broken and insecure. Beauty should not be taken lightly; however it should be embraced in its most natural form.

Let’s vow to teach our children, both daughter’s and sons about the true meaning of beauty. To not take advantage of it, to not use it as a tool, but to respect it.

In addition to our Date Night, reading this post on Happy Healthy Hip Parenting about the mother who injects her daughter with botox also inspired me to write about this topic! Read it if you have a chance. Good stuff.

Please share how you help teach your children about the importance of being secure and beauty. Help me as I raise a daughter is this crazy world. Thank you in advance for your advice.